One of my favourite things as a coach for single Muslim women over 30 s when I get that message saying "Guess what? I'm getting married!". I literally happy dance around the room!!

Today I want to share with you the story of Farhana* (please note her name has been changed for privacy purposes as requested).

I was really inspired by how Farhana took full control of and responsibility for her journey to marriage. She was able to identify that where she needed to step up and embarked an amazing journey of self love and self acceptance. This gave her the confidence to step away from the outcome and make more informed and objective choices in her search.

1) How did you meet him?

We met through friends and we started chatting on Whatsapp for a few weeks before meeting. .. well I stalled him for a few weeks before agreeing to meet him lol .

2) What made him different from other people you had met?

 He was present, showed up on time, replied to messages and made an effort to get to know me. He was also clear that he wasn't there to mess me around.

3)Looking back, what was different about your mindset that helped you to recognise & receive the right person for you?

Just over a year prior to meeting him I started my journey of self love. I came out of a relationship with a narcissist and was too focused on meeting someone else I had a string of bad first dates that left me emotionally drained. A friend of mine sent me one of Soraya’s blog articles and from that article I joined the Facebook group. From this group I was introduced to Dounia Lkoundis’ . Through Dounia's group, I learnt to manifest. It was the first time I put pen to paper and wrote down what I wanted. And of course  working with  Soraya  helped me put things into perspective. I took a break from actively looking for someone and concentrated on myself. When I did meet my fiance I had no expectations and I knew if it didn't work and I did not get along with him I would be fine.

4)What did you learn in your coaching journey that would help other sisters who are currently feeling stuck and drained in their search?

Love yourself first. Build up your independence . Get to know yourself and love yourself for who you are. Every flaw and fault for it makes up who you are and you are wonderful. You don't need a man to define you or to complete you. Lastly don't stop making dua. Allah answers in a time when He knows when is best for us. Patience pays off and you find a man you wouldn't have dreamed of. Alhamdulilah.

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